Are you a new stay-at-home mom? Here’s a little advice…
This week marks my second anniversary as a stay-at-home mom.
I was an elementary school teacher for more than 15 years before my twins were born. I loved my school, my co-workers, my students, and their families, and I miss them a lot. It still feels strange to be sitting on the sidelines as the stores roll out school supplies, as those first-day pics hit social media, and a new school year begins.
I wouldn’t trade my new gig for the world, but it isn’t always easy. And like all new jobs, during the first few weeks there was a bit of a learning curve.
So here is my advice to the new stay-at-home mom:
Get dressed every day
When your days and nights blur together and you don’t see many adults, it’s easy to get sucked into a routine of wearing your pajamas all day. But getting dressed improves your mood and makes it easier to get out of the house with less than half of a day’s notice. Which leads me to …
Leave the house every day
When I don’t, I start to feel like a criminal under house arrest. Whether I plan a play date with friends, a special activity for the kids, or just run errands, it is good for everyone to have a change of scenery.
Get moving
A little bit of exercise and fresh air will do a world of good for everyone. Go for a walk or play with your kids at the park. Your town may have an exercise program designed specifically for moms, like Stroller Strides. I am lucky enough to belong to a gym where the childcare is amazing. My kids look forward to going a couple of days each week. They see their friends and play with different toys. They learn a bit about sharing and how to get along with others. I get an hour to work out, which lowers my stress level and keeps me healthy.
Do something every day that you love to do
Even if it’s only for a few minutes each day, try not to totally neglect your own hobbies. Set aside 15 minutes during nap time to read a book, sew, paint, write … whatever it is that you enjoyed doing in your free time before you had kids. Being a new stay-at-home mom doesn’t mean you have to give up everything about your individuality.
One of the most difficult parts of being a new mom is losing that sense of self. You’re suddenly not yourself anymore, your primary role is as a mother. So, treasure these moments when you get to focus on yourself a little bit. If you’re able to, consider picking up a new hobby like learning an instrument. There are always tips to find a great violin instructor and, when your kids are older, they might be interested in picking up some of what you’ve learned.
Take help when it is offered or ask for it when you need it
Many a new stay-at-home mom falls into the trap of thinking that since this is our job, we shouldn’t ever need (or want) help. Motherhood is a 24-hour-a-day, 7-day-a-week job for all moms. There are going to be times when you need a helping hand, and that is normal.
Congratulations if you are a new stay-at-home mom! Your new clients won’t always be easy, but the job is the most rewarding you’ll ever have.
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