Are you a new stay-at-home mom? Here’s a little advice…
This week marks my second anniversary as a stay-at-home mom.
I was an elementary school teacher for more than 15 years before my twins were born. I loved my school, my co-workers, my students, and their families, and I miss them a lot. It still feels strange to be sitting on the sidelines as the stores roll out school supplies, as those first-day pics hit social media, and a new school year begins.
I wouldn’t trade my new gig for the world, but it isn’t always easy. And like all new jobs, during the first few weeks there was a bit of a learning curve.
So here is my advice to the new stay-at-home mom:
Get dressed every day
When your days and nights blur together and you don’t see many adults, it’s easy to get sucked into a routine of wearing your pajamas all day. But getting dressed improves your mood and makes it easier to get out of the house with less than half of a day’s notice. Which leads me to …
Leave the house every day
When I don’t, I start to feel like a criminal under house arrest. Whether I plan a play date with friends, a special activity for the kids, or just run errands, it is good for everyone to have a change of scenery.
A little bit of exercise and fresh air will do a world of good for everyone. Go for a walk or play with your kids at the park. Your town may have an exercise program designed specifically for moms, like Stroller Strides. I am lucky enough to belong to a gym where the childcare is amazing. My kids look forward to going a couple of days each week. They see their friends and play with different toys. They learn a bit about sharing and how to get along with others. I get an hour to work out, which lowers my stress level and keeps me healthy.
Do something every day that you love to do
Even if it’s only for a few minutes each day, try not to totally neglect your own hobbies. Set aside 15 minutes during nap time to read a book, sew, paint, write … whatever it is that you enjoyed doing in your free time before you had kids. Being a new stay-at-home mom doesn’t mean you have to give up everything about your individuality.
Take help when it is offered or ask for it when you need it
Many a new stay-at-home mom falls into the trap of thinking that since this is our job, we shouldn’t ever need (or want) help. Motherhood is a 24-hour-a-day, 7-day-a-week job for all moms. There are going to be times when you need a helping hand, and that is normal.
Congratulations if you are a new stay-at-home mom! Your new clients won’t always be easy, but the job is the most rewarding you’ll ever have.
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